Giving Tree

The Giving Tree — an amazing short story.

The Giving Tree
By Shel Silverstein

(Classic)
A young boy grows to manhood and old age experiencing the love and generosity of a tree which gives to him without thought of return.

Just the other night I teared up reading this classic story to my kids as they crawled over me.  There was something that just moved me inside.  I guess knowing that my kids were at the age of climbing up the tree, swinging from the branches and enjoying life in its purest form.

It’s hard to think of them growing up, moving on and not needing us all the time.  I feel like I’m a little kid experiencing an emotion for the first time.  I’ll try to soak up these moments because I know they go fast.

Thanks Uncle Shelby.

BTW, Did you know Shel Silverstein wrote the Johnny Cash hit A Boy Named Sue? Impressive.

How Good Are You At Saying No?

Michael Hyatt recently posted a great blog on reasons we need to say no.  You can read his full commentary on the subject here.

If we don’t get better at saying “no,”

  1. Other peoples’ priorities will take precedence over ours.
  2. Mere acquaintances—people we barely know!—will crowd out time with family and close friends.
  3. We will not have the time we need for rest and recovery.
  4. We will end up frustrated and stressed.
  5. We won’t be able to say “yes” to the really important things.

This last one was the clincher for me. Every time I say “no” to something that is not important, I am saying “yes” to something that is.

This is something we’ve talked a lot about at DCC.   You have to say “Yes” to something before you can say “no”.  Once you’ve identified the important things you are going to say “yes” to then it makes it easier (in theory) to say “no”.  So next time you’re posed with a question, ask if it aligns with what you’ve said “yes” to.

Say “yes” to something so you can say “no” to the distractions. 

 

How I Gained 17 Pounds in 40 Days #4HB

I like experimenting with my body – especially my diet.  Whether its trying a no-preservative diet for a month or eating vegetarian for 40 days, I like to see how my body is effected by different diets and exercises.  Some experiments over the years include:

  • No coffee starting in the spring of 2009 and I have not had a cup since
  • No soda starting in the fall of 2009 (I have had 2-3 Cokes  since then usually at the movies)
  • 4 month alcohol fast from August – December 2010.  I still get a drink at the Campus Lounge or other local pubs.
  • Participated in CrossFit for various spurts over the past 5 years

In May I got on the scale after a 40 day period of eating a vegetarian-only diet and I was at a 10 year low — 156 lbs.  That isn’t ideal for a 6 foot male.  It was time for a change.  I finished reading The Four Hour Body earlier this year and decided it was time to experiment with a muscle mass gaining program.   I decided to move forward with Occam’s Protocal.  It’s a great minimalist workout series — do the minimum amount of work for the most gain.  Sounded good to me.  I didn’t/and don’t have time to go to a gym 5x/week.  I needed something easy to implement and easy to follow.  The premise is pretty straight forward:

  • Workout to complete failure
  • Eat like it’s your job
  • Rest — only work out 2x/week for under 25 minutes (yes, you read that right)

The Four Hour Body Couple has some great articles on the workout/program.   Of course, you can just buy the book and read the chapters on this workout program.

A few notes on my 40 days:

  • I did not stick to the diet.  I just tried to eat as much as I could.  I targeted 3000 calories a day and 150 g of protein a day.
  • I went through a 12 lbs bag of Weight Gain shakes (1250 calories in each shake)
  • I went through a 2 lbs container of Casein Protein
  • I did take L Glut supplements
  • I did not take any other supplements
  • All exercises below are performed with a 5 second cadence (5 seconds up and 5 seconds down)
  • I always took a 3 minute break before each exercise
  • Each exercise is one set to complete failure
  • I took a week off before starting my lifts (but I did eat a lot for that week)
  • I drank a lot of milk over these 40 days
  • Note: the first workout day you have to calibrate your starting weight

Here’s what I did for my first 40 days of the program and my weight results:

5/5/11
  • Weighed 156 lbs.
5/11/11
  • 159.4 lbs at 11am
5/15/15

  • Workout A – First workout
  • Started at 60 lbs on pulldown with a 1/3 cadence but didn’t fail (1 min break)
  • Then went to 70 lbs, then 85 lbs, then 100, then 115 and finally failed at 130.
  • 70% of 130 is 91 so I’ll start at 85 lbs.
  • 3 min break
  • Completed 6.1 pulldowns at 5/5 cadence at 85 lbs
  • 3 min break
  • Shoulder press on overhead press machine.
  • Started at 60 lbs and didn’t fail.  Moved to  70 and failed.
  • 60% is 42 so I’ll start at 40 lbs in
  • 3 min rest
  • Setting at seat level 3.
  • Completed 7.1 at 5/5 cadence at 40 lbs.
  • Completed 8 5/5 moyntic crunches
  • 6 g of l glutamine post workout.
5/16/11
  • 6:30am weighed 164.0 lbs
5/18/11
  • 11am weighed 162 lbs
  • Workout B – First Workout
  • Bench start (on machine) 90 lbs (1/3 cadence – 5 reps) didn’t fail
  • 120 lbs (1/3) and failed
  • 3 min break
  • Then 70% of 120 so 84. Will start at 80 at 5/5 (goal 7 reps)
  • 8 reps to failure at 80 lbs on machine.
  • 3 min rest. Then leg press.
  • Leg press Machine
  • First workout. Starting at 230 lbs (1/3 cadence – 5 reps).  Didn’t fail.  Lifted 245, then 260 then finally failed at 335 lbs.
  • Start at 230 lbs for the 5/5 and 10 reps
  • Got 12 reps in

5/21/11

  • Workout A
  • Shoulder press 50 lbs 9.1 reps
  • 3 min break
  • Pull down 85 lbs because I didn’t get 7 last time. 13.5 reps.
  • 3 min break
  • Myostiic crunches. 16 crunches.
  • Total of 20 minutes in the gym.
5/22/11
  • Weighed 168.4 lbs at 9pm

5/24/11

  • Workout B
  • Leg press 16 reps 245 lbs
  • 3 min rest
  • Bench 9 reps 90 lbs
  • Feels crazy to leave gym but my legs r shaking and I can feel my arms/ chest throb.

5/27

  • Workout A
  • Shoulder press 60 lbs 7.3 reps.
  • 3 min break
  • Pull down 100 lbs. 5/5. 8 reps.
  • 3 min break
  • 11 sit ups

5/30/11

  • Workout B
  • Leg press 260 lbs. 13.5 reps
  • 3 min rest.
  • Bench 100 lbs. 7 reps
6/2/11
  • Workout A
  • Pull down 115 lbs. 9.2 reps.
  • 3 min rest
  • Shoulder press 70 lbs. 7.3 reps
6/6/11
  • Weight 170.2 lbs at 7am
  • Workout B – 3 days rest this time
  • Leg press. 275 lbs. 15 reps.
  • Bench. 110 lbs. 8 reps.

6/11/11

  • Workout A
  • Shoulder press. 80 lbs. 7.1 reps.
  • Rest 3 min
  • Pull down. 130 lbs. 7 reps.
  • 12 Situps.
  • 173.4 lbs at midnight.
6/15/11
  • Workout B
  • Bench. 120lbs. 8.2 reps.
  • 3 min break.
  • Leg press. 290. 16 reps.
  • 170 lbs
So I did lose a couple of pounds in the last few days.  I’m going to continue this program with a few changes.  I’m going to add a few lifts to each workout and I’m going to add creatine to my supplements.
My workout for June and July include:
Workout A
  • Shoulder Press
  • Pull Down
  • Deadlift
  • Ab ball
Workout B
  • Leg Press
  • Bench Press
  • Yurt curl
  • Leg Curl
  • Myotatic Crunch
Other resources:

Love

“Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling… Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go… But, of course, ceasing to be “in love” need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense — love as distinct from “being in love” — is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriage) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God… “Being in love” first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.”
CS Lewis

Liked this quote that was read by the father of the bride at a wedding my sister attended this weekend.

#Trust30 – Fear – Day 12

I’m a few days behind but will push ahead.  Today’s challenge (which was published last Friday is) –

Fear by Lachlan Cotter

(Author: Lachlan Cotter)

These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Is fear holding you back from living your fullest life and being truly self expressed? Put yourself in the shoes of the you who’s already lived your dream and write out the answers to the following:

Is the insecurity you’re defending worth the dream you’ll never realize? or the love you’ll never venture? or the joy you’ll never feel?

Will the blunder matter in 10 years? Or 10 weeks? Or 10 days? Or 10 minutes?

Can you be happy being anything less than who you really are?

Now Do. The Thing. You Fear.

My Response:

Great challenge.  Of course, this assumes I know all my dreams and I know someone that has achieved them.  I’m not sure I have either of those.  I’m a little less focused on an end goal/destination and more on the journey.  That being said, this challenge is a great one…

Is the insecurity you’re defending worth the dream you’ll never realize? or the love you’ll never venture? or the joy you’ll never feel? No.  It never is and I’m always shocked at how insecure I am.  I try to watch/monitor my motives and I catch myself too often doing things because fear or because I want accolades or praise.   It’s pretty silly too.  I know I have an audience of One.  I know that I am accepted.  I know that I am free.  Yet, it’s so easy to listen to the lies and the doubts.

What are some of the projects/dreams I/we are working on (in various capacities)?

So are there fears in each dream?  Yep.  Are there failures that can happen?  Yep.  Do I feel called to help/participate/contribute and ignore my insecurities.  Yes.  Is that hard?  All the time.  So I will write on my dry-erase board the words “Now Do. The Thing. You Fear.”

#Trust30 – Day 11 – Divine Idea

Today’s Challenge:

Divine Idea by Fabian Kruse

(Author: Fabian Kruse)

Imitation is Suicide. Insist on yourself; never imitate. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Write down in which areas of your life you have to overcome these suicidal tendencies of imitation, and how you can transform them into a newborn you – one that doesn’t hide its uniqueness, but thrives on it. There is a “divine idea which each of us represents” – which is yours?

My response:

First off I’m not sold that all imitation is suicide.  There are things we should be imitating.   Just ask Thomas a Kempis.  But that’s not the point Fabian raises.  Where are the areas that I imitate where I shouldn’t? Where do I compromise myself, my beliefs, my core?

I don’t really have an answer here.  I feel like I’m still figuring out who I am.  I’m pretty sure this is a life long journey.  There are things in business, in my family, with my friends that I need to figure out how to be more true to myself.  Not true to myself as I see it but true to myself in a divine way.  True to who I was created to be.

So I guess I often imitate how the world tells me to be: like trying to be “successful”.   At the core I believe God created each of us.  He created us in a way that is perfect in his eyes.  Yet I don’t rest in that truth.  I still find myself striving for other things.  I guess the “divine idea” is that I am exactly who God created.  Stop trying to be someone else.  Stop trying to be something else.  Just be me.

I can only say “good luck” to myself on that one.  Ha!

#trust30 Day 8 – Five Years

The Challenge:

Five Years by Corbett Barr

There will be an agreement in whatever variety of actions, so they be each honest and natural in their hour. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What would you say to the person you were five years ago? What will you say to the person you’ll be in five years?

(Author: Corbett Barr)

My Response:

To me 5 years ago: Get ready for a ride.  Grad school, start a business, fail at a business, re-start a business, have a kid, have another kid, have another kid.  Make sure to stay grounded.  A lot can happen in life — it doesn’t mean a thing without love.  It doesn’t mean a thing without being grounded.  Not grounded in some fru-fru sense but grounded in truth.  It’s easy to lose sight of the things that matter most.  It’s easy to take things for granted.  Don’t.  Resist.

To me in 5 years: Read what you wrote 10 years ago.  Keep the main thing the main thing.  Greed. Power. Selfishness.  Money. It’s all junk.   Do the things you teach your 3 year old.  Be nice.  Care for others.  Say sorry.  Laugh.  Learn.  Cry.  Scream.  Feel.  Draw.  Read.  Make friends.  Enjoy the swing.  Enjoy the summer. Enjoy the winter. Pursuit of happiness?  It’s right there.  It’s real joy.  Joy comes from one source.  Dwell in that. Don’t miss these next 5 years.  Don’t miss your kids growing.  Don’t miss your friends.  Don’t miss the people around you.  Make time.  Have margin and good luck!!