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	<title>McFadden Place &#187; Faith</title>
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		<title>A Pastor Finds His Purpose Again</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Feb 2012 15:11:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael McFadden</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A gut-wrenching short story of a pastor who lost his profession and found his purpose. Listen to a man who found his garden to take care of &#8230; [note: CNN has 15 seconds of ads but it's well worth the wait]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A gut-wrenching short story of a pastor who lost his profession and found his purpose.  Listen to a man who found his garden to take care of &#8230;</p>
<p>[note: CNN has 15 seconds of ads but it's well worth the wait]</p>
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		<title>Basecamp Starting Over</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:32:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael McFadden</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Below is an interesting article about a very successful software companies starting over on their best selling product.  I&#8217;ve underlined a few comments that stirred a little something in me. Source: http://www.inc.com/magazine/201202/jason-fried/starting-over-get-real.html Starting Over Sometimes, the best way to improve something is to begin again from scratch. Even if it&#8217;s your top-selling product. By Jason [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Below is an interesting article about a very successful software companies starting over on their best selling product.  I&#8217;ve underlined a few comments that stirred a little something in me.</p>
<blockquote><p>Source: <a href="http://www.inc.com/magazine/201202/jason-fried/starting-over-get-real.html" target="_blank">http://www.inc.com/magazine/201202/jason-fried/starting-over-get-real.html</a><strong></strong></p>
<p><strong>Starting Over</strong><br />
<em>Sometimes, the best way to improve something is to begin again from scratch. Even if it&#8217;s your top-selling product.</em><br />
By Jason Fried |      <a href="http://twitter.com/JasonFried" target="_blank">@JasonFried</a>       | Jan 24, 2012</p>
<p>In 2004, 37signals, the software company I co-founded, released a Web-based project-management and collaboration tool called Basecamp. At the time, we mostly did Web design; Basecamp was a side project that we developed in our spare time to make it easier for us to work together.</p>
<p>Back then, project-management software was mostly about charts, graphs, statistics, and one-way broadcasts. Basecamp was different. It provides team members with a consistent place to work on projects and tools to swap ideas, share feedback, make revisions, and deliver the final project online. Millions of people across nearly every industry have used Basecamp to manage more than eight million projects; 96 percent of users say they would recommend the software to others.</p>
<p>That can mean only one thing: It&#8217;s time to start over.</p>
<p>Why mess with something that has proved so successful? There are a couple of reasons. For one, eight years is a long time. Consider the ways in which the world has changed over the past eight years. We&#8217;ve learned a lot about collaborating in that time. We&#8217;ve received tons of feedback from users, many of whom have shown us the ways in which they work. Plus, there are technologies available that didn&#8217;t exist back then.</p>
<p>But that&#8217;s only part of it. About a year ago, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">we began discussing how we might improve our best-selling product.</span> The more we talked, the more it became clear that the only way to significantly improve Basecamp was to start over.</p>
<p>Think about a product&#8217;s life span. When something new is released to the public—and this is especially true of software—it&#8217;s hardly set in stone. You get feedback from customers and make modifications. You add features, refine existing ones, and make things better over time. If you really listen and do it right, the product earns its success.</p>
<p>But paradoxically, that success makes it harder to change. As time goes by, people get used to things the way they are. And the more someone is accustomed to doing something a certain way, the harder it is to ask him or her to change. When it comes to introducing ideas, the years have a way of boxing you in.</p>
<p>And that&#8217;s where we found ourselves with Basecamp—a successful product that was tough to change in major ways. Of course, it has evolved; over the years, we&#8217;ve made thousands of incremental improvements to the software. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">But now we have ideas that are more revolutionary than incremental.</span> We think these ideas will dramatically enhance Basecamp&#8217;s speed, power, and flexibility.</p>
<p>The problem is that we cannot make these kinds of changes in the existing product. Over time, software builds up legacy. The old technology is baked in, and the roots of the product are so knotted that simply unwinding them becomes a massive undertaking. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Think about trying to uproot a 250-year-old oak tree versus a two-year-old one.</span></p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The easy thing to do is nothing. But continuing on the current path is a time-tested formula for complacency.</span></p>
<p>Of course, customers have a way of building up legacy, too, and there&#8217;s bound to be some grumbling. We&#8217;ll deal with any such issues as they arise. But one thing is certain: Starting over doesn&#8217;t have to mean forcing change on existing customers. We&#8217;ll have two versions of Basecamp—the Classic version and the new version. Users will be able to switch to the new Basecamp or stick with the Basecamp they are already comfortable with.</p>
<p>After a year of hard work, this is all set to happen soon. How will our customers receive it? In an upcoming column, I&#8217;ll let you know.</p></blockquote>
<p>A few comments:</p>
<ul>
<li>Am I asking &#8220;how might I improve&#8221; enough?  Am I getting complacent?</li>
<li>Do I have the guts to say it&#8217;s time to start over?</li>
<li>Is starting over the only way to have revolutionary change?  Maybe.  Obviously 37 signals believes so.</li>
<li>I love the image of uprooting a 250 year old oak tree vs. uprooting a young tree.</li>
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<p><img class="aligncenter" title="Uprooted Redwood Tree" src="http://www.perlgurl.org/archives/images/Roots_rCCx.jpg" alt="" width="480" height="388" /></p>
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		<title>Bob Campbell Memorial Service Videos</title>
		<link>http://mcfaddenplace.com/2012/01/bob-campbell-memorial-service-videos/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jan 2012 05:02:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael McFadden</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Below are three videos from the memorial service for Bob Campbell. The official obituary if viewable here. Picture Tribute (4 min 15 sec) Played at the memorial service. Sorry for the ads on this video. It was the only way I could use the songs. Just click on the &#8220;X&#8221; to close them. Memorial Service [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Below are three videos from the memorial service for Bob Campbell.  The official obituary if viewable <a href="http://mcfaddenplace.com/2011/12/tribute-to-robert-campbell/">here</a>.</p>
<p><strong>Picture Tribute (4 min 15 sec)</strong><br />
Played at the memorial service.  Sorry for the ads on this video.  It was the only way I could use the songs.  Just click on the &#8220;X&#8221; to close them.</p>
<p><iframe width="500" height="284" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/q4rL02dBwcI?rel=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p>
<p><strong>Memorial Service &#8211; Family Stories (20 min)</strong><br />
This video includes the opening comments from Jim Burns and then the stories from Bob&#8217;s two son-in-laws (Rob and I) and his two daughters (Kristen and Kelly).</p>
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<p>Time Markers:<br />
Rob (00:00:39)<br />
Mike (00:04:57)<br />
Kristen (00:08:03)<br />
Kelly (00:14:10)</p>
<p><strong>Memorial Service &#8211; Friends and Eulogy (47 min)</strong><br />
This video includes the opening prayer from Jim Burns, the readings from Bob&#8217;s small group, reflections from Tom Thompson, and the Eulogies from Jim Burns and Tim Timmons.</p>
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<p>Time Markers<br />
Jim (00:00:05)<br />
Brandy (00:05:05)<br />
Erik (00:06:13)<br />
Russ (00:07:35)<br />
Bob (00:08:15)<br />
Tom (00:09:52)<br />
Jim (00:20:29)<br />
Tim (00:30:00)</p>
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		<title>A Tribute to Robert Campbell</title>
		<link>http://mcfaddenplace.com/2011/12/tribute-to-robert-campbell/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Dec 2011 05:36:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael McFadden</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Official Obituary Below.  Videos from the Memorial Service are available here. Dec. 16, 2011 A TRIBUTE TO ROBERT M. CAMPBELL Gifted Entrepreneur, Industry Leader, Devoted Husband, Father and Humanitarian Robert M. “Bob” Campbell, one of the most influential leaders in the California commercial real estate industry for more than four decades, passed away on December [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><em>Official Obituary Below.  Videos from the Memorial Service are available <a href="http://mcfaddenplace.com/2012/01/bob-campbell-memorial-service-videos/">here</a>.<br />
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<p>Dec. 16, 2011</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>A TRIBUTE TO ROBERT M. CAMPBELL </strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>Gifted Entrepreneur, Industry Leader, Devoted Husband, Father and Humanitarian</em></p>
<p>Robert M. “Bob” Campbell, one of the most influential leaders in the California commercial real estate industry for more than four decades, passed away on December 15, 2011 in Newport Beach, California. He passed peacefully at home surrounded by his wife, children and grandchildren.</p>
<p>Bob founded CT Realty Corp., along with U.T. “Tom” Thompson, III, in 1994 and served as president of the company from 1994 to 2009, becoming chairman in 2009. During Bob’s tenure, CT Realty completed more than 200 transactions valued in excess of $2.5 billion. Prior to establishing CT Realty, Bob was general partner of Birtcher Campbell Properties for 20 years. While at Birtcher, he was responsible for the development of commercial real estate projects involving more than 11.5 million square feet of space. He was also a founder and past Chairman of the Board of Pacific National Bank in Newport Beach.</p>
<div id="attachment_1287" class="wp-caption aligncenter" style="width: 310px"><img class="size-medium wp-image-1287 " title="Bogey and the Grandkids" src="http://mcfaddenplace.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/DSC01034-300x199.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="199" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Bogey and the Grandkids (Nov 2011)</p></div>
<p>Over the years, Bob was the recipient of numerous awards for his business and philanthropic achievements. In 2003, he received the UC Irvine Graduate School of Management’s Lifetime Achievement Award, which is presented to an individual who has exhibited a long period of positive influence over the real estate industry in Orange County, California. In addition, Bob was honored with Ernst &amp; Young’s prestigious “Entrepreneur of the Year” award in 2003 in the category of Real Estate Services. He was also presented with a proclamation by the city of Newport Beach that same year in recognition of his service to Orange County business and the general community.</p>
<p>Over the decades, Bob volunteered thousands of hours to nonprofit organizations and community activities. He was an original member of the “Teahouse Gang,” a group of prominent commercial real estate professionals who recognized the need to do more for the local community. The group held their first annual charity event in 2001 to benefit KIDWORKS, a Santa Ana-based nonprofit organization dedicated to educating and nurturing at-risk youth.</p>
<p>In 2002, the Teahouse Gang held a benefit that raised roughly $1 million for KIDWORKS. Bob and the other Teahouse Gang members established the Building Block Foundation Fund, which supports programs that encourage at-risk, underprivileged but deserving youth in Orange County to achieve more rewarding lifestyles. Campbell was honored for his leadership with this organization in 2005 by the Orange County United Way, which presented him with the Dan Donahue Award at its annual Keeping Kids on Track luncheon.</p>
<p>In 2007, Bob was recognized for turning “real estate success” into “real success for at-risk youth” with the Keys to Success Award. The award is presented each year by Project Access, a nonprofit organization that assists residents of low-income housing apartment communities with achieving self- sufficiency through access to onsite health, education and social services. The organization was founded in 1999 by Foundation for Social Resources, a nonprofit provider of affordable housing in California.</p>
<p>Bob was born on Sept. 5, 1940, in Oakland, California, and received his bachelor of science degree in engineering from Santa Clara University in Santa Clara, California. He is also a two-time graduate of UCLA’s Business School with a master’s degree and a Ph.D. in business administration. Both degrees were earned while working as a research analyst for Planning Research Corp. and as an assistant professor at California State University, Los Angeles.</p>
<p>In addition to his business career and dedication to helping others, Bob was a passionate golfer who loved to travel with his wife of 37 years, Jean. Bob was deeply devoted to his Christian beliefs and was a member of Mariners Church/South Coast Community Church in Irvine, California, for nearly 30 years. Bob’s commitment was nurtured by his weekly participation in a Christian Men’s Covenant Group which offered guidance, comfort and prayer for members facing personal and professional challenges. He served as an intermediary for many of the group’s challenges, using his extraordinary leadership talent, willingness to listen and quiet, thoughtful manner to resolve even the most difficult situations.</p>
<p>Throughout his career, Bob built strong business relationships that not only made him successful in his career, but hugely successful in life. Evidence of this is the many lives he touched, bringing joy, encouragement and hope. To some, Bob was an entrepreneur, a gifted leader and an inspirational mentor. To others, he was a talented partner and business associate. Most importantly, he was a true humanitarian and a devoted husband, father and grandfather. He will truly be missed by all. We thank him for the legacy he leaves which will continue to help others long after our own time has passed.</p>
<p>In addition to Jean, Bob is survived by his daughter Kristen and son-in-law Rob Venick and their two children, James and Katelyn; daughter Kelly and son-in-law Michael McFadden and their three children Campbell, Piper and Makayla, of Denver, Colorado; and his sister Rae Nash of Alamogordo, New Mexico.</p>
<p>A memorial service for Bob is planned for Wednesday, December 21, 2011 at <a href="http://www.marinerschurch.org/">Mariners Church</a> at 11:00 AM in the Community Center located at 5001 Newport Coast Drive, Irvine, California 92603 (corner of Newport Coast Drive and Bonita Canyon Drive). In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the Building Block Foundation Fund (www.buildingblock.org) or Kure It (www.kureit.org).</p>
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		<title>Time to Get My Core Rhythm Back</title>
		<link>http://mcfaddenplace.com/2011/11/time-to-get-my-core-rhythm-back/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Nov 2011 15:29:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael McFadden</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It seems like every few months I need to be reminded about healthy rhythms and routines.&#160; Fortunately I do have a few things built into my life that remind me.&#160; One is subscribing to various blogs &#8212; one of which is The Energy Project.&#160; It was The Energy Project author, Tony Schwartz, that inspired me [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It seems like every few months I need to be reminded about healthy rhythms and routines.&nbsp; Fortunately I do have a few things built into my life that remind me.&nbsp; One is subscribing to various blogs &#8212; one of which is <a href="http://www.theenergyproject.com/">The Energy Project</a>.&nbsp; It was The Energy Project author, Tony Schwartz, that inspired me to create my daily, weekly, monthly, and annual routines.&nbsp; Of course, I have the tendency to put the effort into the plan and then think the execution will just happen.&nbsp; Ha.&nbsp; That never works.&nbsp; I told an entrepreneur the other day that if it wasn&#8217;t hard work then he probably wasn&#8217;t going down the right road.&nbsp; Now I just have to be reminded about that daily.&nbsp; It takes hard work.&nbsp; Hard work doesn&#8217;t mean there isn&#8217;t joy.&nbsp; In fact, hard work can produce more joy.&nbsp; Hard work doesn&#8217;t mean it can&#8217;t be fun.&nbsp; It just means that nearly everything the world has to offer is going to take hard work.&nbsp; </p>
<p>And that principle goes for maintaining healthy rhythms in life.&nbsp; So I&#8217;m off to revisit my daily, weekly, monthly and annual routines.&nbsp; </p>
<p>PS Below is a link and some excerpts to the blog post that recently spurred me on. </p>
<div align="center"><img style="max-width: 800px;" src="http://www.theenergyproject.com/sites/default/themes/tep/logo.png" /></div>
<p><a href="http://www.theenergyproject.com/blog/how-recover-your-core-rhythm">How to Recover Your Core Rhythm &#8211; The Energy Project</a></p>
<blockquote><p><a href="http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/exercise/AN01713" target="_blank">Exercise </a>also positively influences our cognitive functioning, and our mood. We ought to be exercising nearly every day, ideally for at least 45 minutes,  including strength training at least twice a week. Less than half of  Americans exercise even three times a week for as much as 30 minutes&#8230;.</p>
<p>The secret to optimal well-being and effectiveness is to make more  rhythmic waves in your life. To build the highest level of fitness, for  example, it&#8217;s critical to challenge the heart at high intensity for  short periods of time, and then to recover deeply&#8230;.</p>
<p>Paradoxically, the most effective way to operate at work <a href="http://www.theenergyproject.com/blog/90-minute-solution-live-sprinter" target="_blank">is like a sprinter</a>, working with single-minded focus for periods of no longer than 90  minutes, and then taking a break. That way when you&#8217;re working, you&#8217;re  really working, and when you&#8217;re recovering, you&#8217;re truly refueling the  tank.</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Listening, it turns out, is magic</title>
		<link>http://mcfaddenplace.com/2011/10/listening-it-turns-out-is-magic/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 30 Oct 2011 16:09:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael McFadden</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[At one of our small groups we talked about listening.  It was fascinating.  There were 5 couples that have all been married between 4-11 years and it was very apparent everyone sucked at listening!  Sure there are glimpses of good listening but by enlarge we are all in need of huge improvement. Here is a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>At one of our small groups we talked about listening.  It was fascinating.  There were 5 couples that have all been married between 4-11 years and it was very apparent everyone sucked at listening!  Sure there are glimpses of good listening but by enlarge we are all in need of huge improvement.</p>
<p>Here is a little excerpt from an article <a href="http://blogs.hbr.org/bregman/" target="_blank">Peter Bergman</a> published on HBR&#8217;s website.  Peter is a strategic advisor to CEOs and their leadership teams.  In other words, he&#8217;s great at fixing other people&#8217;s problems.  In his recent article he discusses how that didn&#8217;t go over well with his wife.  The entire article is available <a href="http://blogs.hbr.org/bregman/2011/10/how-to-really-listen.html" target="_blank">here</a>.</p>
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<blockquote><p>Listening, it turns out, is magic. Not only did it help me understand what was going on with both of us, but it helped Eleanor feel better, too. It made her feel that she wasn&#8217;t alone in her feelings; I was with her.</p>
<p>All I had to do was listen.</p>
<p>But listening isn&#8217;t easy. The more we listen to others, the more likely we will react — or overreact — to what they say. Listening, it turns out, is much harder than speaking. We have to allow things we might disagree with to hang in the air. We have to move over a little and create space for those things to linger.</p></blockquote>
<p>This is a great article to read and reflect on.  It helped me think about how I suck at listening.  It&#8217;s really hard to listen.  It takes focus.  It takes patience.  It takes energy.  Wow.  I&#8217;m exhausted just thinking about it <img src='http://mcfaddenplace.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>The next part of our small group we talked about an even more difficult task: listening to God.</p>
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<p>We reviewed a handful of scriptures around listening to God.  Take a look &#8230; see if any speak to you.</p>
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<div><strong>Luke 5</strong></div>
<div><sup>15</sup> Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. <sup>16</sup> But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.</div>
<div><strong><em>John 10</em></strong></div>
<div><span><sup>11</sup> “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.</span> <span><sup>12</sup> The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it.</span> <span><sup>13</sup> The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep.</span></div>
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<div><sup>24</sup> The Jews who were there gathered around him, saying, “How long will you keep us in suspense? If you are the Messiah, tell us plainly.”<sup>25</sup> Jesus answered, <span>“I did tell you, but you do not believe. The works I do in my Father’s name testify about me,</span> <span><sup>26</sup> but you do not believe because you are not my sheep.</span> <span><sup>27</sup> My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.</span> <span><sup>28</sup> I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand.</span> <span><sup>29</sup> My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all<sup>[<a title="See footnote c" href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=John+10&amp;amp;version=NIV#fen-NIV-26511c">c</a>]</sup>; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand.</span> <span><sup>30</sup> I and the Father are one.”</span></p>
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<div><strong><em>Hebrews 10</em></strong></div>
<div><sup>19-21</sup>So, friends, we can now—without hesitation—walk right up to God, into &#8220;the Holy Place.&#8221; Jesus has cleared the way by the blood of his sacrifice, acting as our priest before God. The &#8220;curtain&#8221; into God&#8217;s presence is his body.</div>
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<p><sup>22-25</sup>So let&#8217;s do it—full of belief, confident that we&#8217;re presentable inside and out. Let&#8217;s keep a firm grip on the promises that keep us going. He always keeps his word. Let&#8217;s see how inventive we can be in encouraging love and helping out, not avoiding worshiping together as some do but spurring each other on, especially as we see the big Day approaching.</p>
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<div>[note: in the section before verses 19-25 the author states that the High Priest used to have to make sacrifices but now Christ has made the single sacrifice needed.</div>
<div><strong><em>Matthew 7</em></strong></div>
<div><span><sup>7</sup> “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.</span> <span><sup>8</sup> For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.</span></div>
<p><span><sup>9</sup> “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone?</span> <span><sup>10</sup> Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?</span> <span><sup>11</sup> If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!</span> <span><sup>12</sup> So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.</span></p></blockquote>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Giving Tree &#8212; an amazing short story. The Giving Tree By Shel Silverstein (Classic) A young boy grows to manhood and old age experiencing the love and generosity of a tree which gives to him without thought of return. Just the other night I teared up reading this classic story to my kids as [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The Giving Tree &#8212; an amazing short story.</p>
<blockquote><p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1232" title="Giving Tree" src="http://mcfaddenplace.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/Giving-Tree.jpg" alt="" width="200" height="252" /><strong>The Giving Tree </strong><em><br />
By Shel Silverstein </em><br />
<em>(Classic)</em><br />
A young boy grows to manhood and old age experiencing the love and generosity of a tree which gives to him without thought of return.</p></blockquote>
<p>Just the other night I teared up reading this classic story to my kids as they crawled over me.  There was something that just moved me inside.  I guess knowing that my kids were at the age of climbing up the tree, swinging from the branches and enjoying life in its purest form.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s hard to think of them growing up, moving on and not needing us all the time.  I feel like I&#8217;m a little kid experiencing an emotion for the first time.  I&#8217;ll try to soak up these moments because I know they go fast.</p>
<p>Thanks <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shel_Silverstein" target="_blank">Uncle Shelby</a>.</p>
<p>BTW, Did you know Shel Silverstein wrote the Johnny Cash hit <em><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Boy_Named_Sue" target="_blank">A Boy Named Sue</a></em>? Impressive.</p>
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